Kat Stacks is a woman but most probably don’t see her as a that at all. Most people would probably more readily call her a “hoe,” relegating her to a less valuable, sub human status. Such is the fate of Kat Stacks and many other women who fall outside of the realm of acceptability with respect to sexuality. They are marginalized to be outcasts, especially among other females.
Kat Stacks recently made a wave in the realm of black news and entertainment by “exposing” famous men, such as rappers Bow Wow and Fabolous, with whom she engaged in sexual activities. She exposed men about their lack of sizeable manhood, their lack of income, how long the sex with them lasted and what it entailed. She has been called everything from a groupie to a ho to a goldigger, and was even physically attacked by supposed friends of Bow Wow and Fabolous. Not a day goes by where I don’t see someone tweet a sexist joke in regards to Ms. Stacks in regards to her sexual behavior. Its important for everyone to join in making Kat Stacks a spectacle to keep their status in tact as a lady or reputable person with sexual morals.
Women and men alike must make it a point to differentiate themselves from the “ho’s” in the world so they won’t face the same fate as Kat Stacks, to be humiliated for their sexual choices. Respect is bartered for Kat Stacks; others lack respect for her because she doesn’t fit society’s definition of a lady. Those who are intimidated by Kat Stacks’ sexuality and sexual prowess make it a point to make her the brunt of their jokes. She is a human being that deserves as much respect as anyone else. She is a young woman of 21 and is also the mother of two children. It is important to look critically at this situation with Kat Stacks but also others like it where society is quick to label someone a “ho.” In the Kat Stacks phenomena we see society calling yet again for the sexual repression of another woman; a complete sexual and vocal silence. As much as we might hate to admit it, Kat Stacks is one of us. Maybe with just more sexual experience. What woman hasn’t been called a ho; especially those not afraid of their sexuality? Isn’t that reason enough to stop using the word? It has no real meaning. Essentially, Kat Stacks is another woman, whose marginalization is a product of the sexism and misogyny in society. I don’t think I need to point out that none of the men she “exposed” had any of the same names thrown at them as she did. Its important to look at what we choose to say about the women involved in situations like these.
I can, however, agree that Kat Stacks has brought this attention upon herself. Her assumed goal for talking to the media to expose these men is to catapult a career from it. Kat Stacks has crossed the threshold of what society deems to be private acts, making sex public and combining that with consumerism. Twitter and Youtube are her main avenues of communication, both those who hate and love her consume her messages and ideals about sexuality. She is definitely using capitalism, consumerism and “sex sales” model to make a name for herself. What does this mean for the sexual exploitation for women? What does this say to girls about ideas of how to be successful? Kat Stacks has also been compared a lot to Karrine Steffans, who wrote a infamous book about her sexscapades with Hollywood’s stars and made a career out of it. Part of me believes that both Kat Stacks and Karrine Steffans think that they are debunking stereotypes about women by being just as sexual as men. However, in order to combat sexism it is counter-productive to behave hypersexually as men do because that also marginalizes womyn. We must, instead develop new ways of managing public sexuality without marginalizing and without furthering the initial problem.